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Watch Me!

As you go into the holidays I hope you take a little time to reflect on what a good mom you have been this year. That you haven’t been perfect but you have tried and then tried some more, and probably a lot more after that. When no one was watching you still gave your best effort and for that you are an amazing mom.

Anyone that has kids knows that they don’t listen. It’s just a fact. That fact became very apparent to me when my two year old walks into any room with a mess and starts screaming “You kidding me?! You kidding me?!” Apparently when there are messes in rooms I just cleaned I turn into a psychopath. Leave it up to my two year old to point that out. My real point besides my auto freak out response is that our kids may not listen but they watch every single little move we make. They are always learning from us and there are a few things I really hope they see us moms do.

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Showing our kids how to succeed after failure is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. So dream on my sweet super hero girl!

For starters I hope they see us fail. I know it sounds silly but I want my kids to watch me fall and get kicked down because then they will also see me get right back up and be ready for more. I want them to know life can be unfair, life can be cruel, and life can be really hard. It’s making the most of what life offers that matters. It’s absorbing all the good so we can get through the bad too. I am a firm believer that people who are successful in life are those who can navigate the hard times.

Our Body Only Gives Us What We Give It In Return

I want them to watch us take care of ourselves and do things that make us feel strong and beautiful. And not because I want to emphasize the importance of the outer appearance of my body (let’s face it, I’m rocking tankinis for life after having 4 kids #alwayspregnantbelly) but because I want to have energy, I want to be happy, and I want to push myself to always be a better version of me. I hope they see that feeling good doesn’t just happen, it takes effort and focus.

I want them to watch us get adjusted, go for runs and workout, and only put good things into our bodies. I want them to see me respect my body because one day I plan to be 95 years old and holding my great grandbabies. I want them to know our body only gives us what we give it in return. I want them to see me trust my body to innately know what I need to thrive, and that I can be so in tune with my body that I listen to what it needs.

I want them to see us moms struggle with balance in our lives. That sometimes I make the wrong decision or get mad at them just because I’m having a bad day. That saying sorry isn’t a sign of weakness but a sign of wanting to grow as a person and be the best version of yourself. I want them to know how incredibly loved they are and that I try really hard to be a good mom. Some days I am and some days I leave much room for improvement but the effort is where the love is, not the perfection.

The thing that matters most is how much I love my kids and that I will keep trying and failing over and over again in the never ending journey to be a good parent. So I hope you join me as this year comes to an end to be proud of your successes and to be kind to yourself about your failures. You’re a really good mom and your kids are watching and they notice it too.

Merry Christmas from my family to yours,

Kristina Ebel

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  1. Lori McConville says
    Dec 21, 2016 at 7:16 PM

    Kristina, What a wonderful message. You give me courage and make me feel grateful and whole all at the same time. You say it so well; we are physical, emotional and spiritual beings, and we need to care for "all" of us. Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful family. What a good community we belong to. Blessings!

    • Kristina says
      Dec 22, 2016 at 6:00 AM

      I agree Lori! An amazing community that I am definitely grateful for! Merry Christmas!

  2. says
    Dec 21, 2016 at 7:57 PM

    This is beautiful and exactly what I needed to read today. Being a mom is a blessing and no matter how many times I get knocked down I do my very best to get right back up. Hope you and your beautiful family have a very Merry Christmas!

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